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Fundraising for Jandré

Fundraising for Jandré

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People with Asperger syndrome see, hear and feel the world differently to other people. If you have Asperger syndrome, you have it for life – it is not an illness or disease and cannot be ‘cured’. Often people feel that Asperger syndrome is a fundamental aspect of their identity.

Autism is a spectrum condition. All autistic people share certain difficulties, but being autistic will affect them in different ways. Some people with Asperger syndrome also have mental health issues or other conditions, meaning people need different levels and types of support.

Because of life being so hard for Jandré, he hung himself on the 2nd of October, a day before his 14th birthday. For him life has become unbearable. At the moment he is under 24hr watch in a psychiatric facility, in order to keep him safe. He will then be moved to a children's psychiatric hospital for treatment, for his depression and anxiety.

People with Asperger syndrome are of above-average intelligence. They don't have the learning disabilities that many autistic people have, but they may have specific learning difficulties. They have fewer problems with speech but may still have difficulties with understanding and processing language.  They also feel the world is quite overwhelming and it causes considerable anxiety.

In particular, understanding and relating to other people, and taking part in everyday family, school, work and social life, can be harder. Other people appear to know, intuitively, how to communicate and interact with each other, yet can also struggle to build rapport with people with Asperger syndrome. People with Asperger syndrome may wonder why they are 'different' and feel their social differences mean people don’t understand them. Autistic people, often do not 'look' disabled. So people sometimes sees them as rude and will avoid them.

People with Asperger syndrome may also experience over- or under-sensitivity to sounds, touch, tastes, smells, light, colours, temperatures or pain. Jandré is sight, touch and sound sensitive.

Jandré has been in and out of institutions and had to be moved to a private school because he could not manage mainstream. The costs for all of this, including the medical bills, are piling up. Unfortunately, medical aids only allow for 21 days of psychiatric support and with a child that needs constant Psychological and Psychiatric help, funding is a real problem.

Also having him in a private school facility is draining the savings and I don't know for how much longer I will be able to carry this on a single Mom's salary.

Jandré also gets meltdowns, which takes its toll on me, my Mom and Dad, that are helping me with him. He is becoming stronger, and we are not able to restrain him on our own anymore. I will have to get a carer in, that will be able to help us in the event of his meltdowns and also to watch him, should he attempt to take his own life again.

At the moment the monthly costs is running on an average of R25 000, just for his medicines, Psychologists, Psychiatrists and other expenses to keep him functioning as normal as possible. This does not include a tutor/carer etc, that we will need when he returns home.

I am appealing to everyone, to please donate to this fund, in order to give Jandré the help he needs. He is my only child and I am dreading the moment that I won't be able to help him anymore.


  • Dec 13, 2019 - USD $ 34.11
  • "To a brave mom" - Lise

  • Dec 12, 2019 - R 101.75
  • "Sterkte Jandre????" - Quintus

  • Dec 03, 2019 - R 1 000.00
  • "

    Ons bid vir julle elke dag

    " - J

  • Oct 30, 2019 - R 1 000.00
  • "

    Ons bid vir julle elke dag

    " - J

  • Oct 28, 2019 - R 203.00
  • "Want oom Dawie sou al die pad vir jou gecheer het Jandré! Ons dink so baie aan jou. " - Marguerite van der Waal

  • Oct 26, 2019 - R 507.50
  • "Baie sterkte vir Jandré, mamma Marlene, Oupa en Ouma. Hou moed! Liefde Betsie Meyer (Het ook 'n outistiese seun)" - Betsie Meyer

  • Oct 22, 2019 - USD $ 30.00
  • "Jy is sterk! Ons kom van Springbok af" - Michelle

  • Oct 17, 2019 - R 514.10
  • "Praying for you both every day, knowing that God will look after you both. I hold onto Jeremiah 29:11. You have always been an inspiration to me, I’m positive that you are to your son as well. Hugs xx" - Dusana

  • Oct 16, 2019 - R 514.10
  • "Liefde Jack, Issie en Bianca x " - Another Mother

  • Oct 15, 2019 - R 528.60
  • "Ons bid vir julle" - Friend

  • Oct 14, 2019 - R 203.00
  • "Ons harte en gebede gaan uit na Jandrë, Marlene, Boeta en Reana. Hou styf vas aan die Here. Lovies" - Oom Leon en tannie Mariana

  • Oct 14, 2019 - R 121.80
  • "Ek bid vir jou, Jandrè, jou Mamma, Oupa en Ouma. Baie sterkte vir julle almal. Baie liefde. Tannie Paula" - Tannie Paula

  • Oct 13, 2019 - USD $ 67.65
  • "You are an amazing mom, thinking of both of you." - Yuliya

  • Oct 12, 2019 - USD $ 71.24
  • "I wish you all the best Jandré and Marlene. Life is tough but so are you ??????????" - Georgia Warren

  • Oct 12, 2019 - USD $ 284.97
  • "God bless... best wishes" - Anonymous

  • Oct 11, 2019 - R 1 028.20
  • "Julle is groter as jul probleme." - Jakkals

  • Oct 10, 2019 - USD $ 34.63
  • "Julle is in my gebede." - Ralda

  • Oct 09, 2019 - R 514.10
  • "Ek bid vir julle al 2 xx" - Rona

  • Oct 09, 2019 - R 507.50
  • "Net liefde??????" - Lelani

  • Oct 09, 2019 - R 514.10
  • "Thinking of you all xx" - karen

  • Oct 09, 2019 - R 2 000.00
  • "Ons bid vir julle elke dag" - J

  • Oct 09, 2019 - R 514.10
  • "Baie sterkte met alles......" - Liefde

  • Oct 09, 2019 - R 1 028.20
  • "You are in our thoughts and prayers." - Anonymous

  • Oct 09, 2019 - R 5 075.00
  • "Liefde en sterkte! " - Greta

  • Oct 08, 2019 - R 514.10
  • "Jandré, jy is so spesiaal. Jou skildery bewaar ek in my hart. Ek hoop jou pad loop mooi vorentoe... Liefde vir jou en almal wat vir jou lief is " - Nellie

  • Oct 08, 2019 - R 507.50
  • "Jandre ons bid elke dag vir jou jy is baie spesiaal. Sterkte xx" - Elmien Pepler

  • Oct 08, 2019 - R 1 015.00
  • "Sterkte liefste Jandré en jou ongelooflike mamma en ouma en oupa xxx" - Lizél Warren

  • Oct 08, 2019 - R 507.50
  • "Baie sterkte met d pad vorentoe. " - Duarita Wolmarans

  • Oct 08, 2019 - R 205.64
  • "Praying for you and Jandre" - Gillian

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Donations to date

R 26 315.82

Fundraising target

R 100 000.00

Jandre Nel Medical Cause

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Hello, my name is Marlene Nel and I am a single Mom to Jandré.  Jandré has been formally diagnosed with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) formally known as Aspergers.  It is a complicated diagnosis and the costs involved with Jandre's care and medical expenses are very high.