Robyn's Journey to Gender Re-assignment Surgery
- By: Robyn Alaina Botha
- Short URL: https://www.backabuddy.co.za/robyns-journey-to-gender-re-assignment
On the 12th of March 1995, I was born into a world that would ridicule an outcast me for a genetic mistake that wasn’t mine.
At birth I was assigned “Male” as my gender, a label I would spend my life trying to live up to. I always felt as if there was something wrong with me. As a boy, the reflection in the mirror staring back at me was someone I couldn’t relate to. It always seemed that the person I was seeing was someone else.
Boys are taught to play with cars and to play in the dirt, but I preferred make up and barbies much more. My parents could see my obsession with dress-up was more than just common curiosity.
At 5 years old, I was introduced to countless specialists, who shattered my parents’ dream of a model son: I was diagnosed as Transgender: I was trapped in a body that didn’t belong to me.
My battle with my identity would follow me down high school corridors, where I was bullied for being "too feminine." It would lead me to attempt suicide more times than I'd like to admit. It would prevent me from finishing school and finding a job to support myself.
My mom passed away from heart disease when I was 16. Her passing shattered me, she was the only person who supported me loved me unconditionally. Suddenly I found myself alone.
I couldn’t cope with the playground name-calling after I lost my mom. I wasn’t strong enough. At the end of my grade 9 year I dropped out of school and went to community college. After years of fighting my identity and trying to fit into society’s mould for me, I learned to embrace myself and start living has the woman I was born to be.
At 17 I started dressing as a woman. I legally changed gender on my ID book and Dewald became Robyn. These small changes had a profound impact on me, it empowered me to be true to myself, but I still felt incomplete. At 18 I started hormone replacement therapy and applied for Gender Reassignment Surgery at Groote Schuur Hospital. I was discouraged to learn that the government only pays for 3 surgeries a year, making the waiting list a minimum of 25 years long.
The idea of spending a ‘life sentence’ in the wrong body makes me feel hopeless. I currently work on retail I could never afford to pay for this surgery on my own. No medical aid in South Africa pays for this procedure either. This is the road that has lead me to crowdfunding. I’m hoping to raise a total of R200 000 for the procedure that will allow me to become the woman I was born to be.
Your donations, however small, will cement my journey towards self-acceptance
With this campaign I want to empower other transgender individuals to step out and share their stories with the world, so they too can be free and be their best selves.
I invite you join me in making history, in being a part of the first crowdfunded gender reassignment surgery in South Africa!
*All funds generated on this site will be managed by Backabuddy and paid directly to medical practitioners when we have raised enough funds for the operation.
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Read About Robyn in the NEWS
- Cape Times
- Cape Times
- Mamba Online
- Mamba Girl
- Cape Argus
- Kuils River, Brackenfell & Kraaifontein News
- Mr Gay Mardi Gras - YouTube
|Ronel||I admire your courage, you go girl!!||Aug 28, 2017||R 200.00|
|Anne Lacheiner-Kuhn||I wish you all the best Robyn and hope the little contribution helps for the journey to who you really are! Sterkte from London via Namibia!||Aug 08, 2017||R 264.47|
|Mike||High vife Zain||Aug 04, 2017||R 100.00|
|Juan Pinnick||Sending love and support from your Mr Mardi Gras 2017! More to come!||Aug 04, 2017||R 205.64|
|Anonymous||I really hope that you raise enough funds for your surgery ! You are such a beautiful girl !||Aug 04, 2017||R 100.00|
|Bemao (Spies)||Robyn, you are such a beautiful person. You deserve to be free and to be YOU. We love you for who you truly are.||Aug 02, 2017||R 200.00|
|Lorraine & Tessa||Sending you love and support during your transition. Thank you for sharing your story with us.||Aug 02, 2017||R 102.82|
|Marisa||Authentically you. So beautiful and such an inspiration xxx be blessed||Aug 02, 2017||R 102.82|
|Nadine Pienaar||Thank you for letting us be a part of your journey. Brave & Beautiful.||Aug 02, 2017||R 51.41|
|Randoms||Not much.. but go be beautiful yo||Aug 02, 2017||R 205.64|
|Catherine||Good luck on your journey||Aug 02, 2017||R 50.00|
|Anonymous||Good luck gorgeous I wish you all the best in your transition ! You are an inspiration to so many people !||Aug 01, 2017||R 154.23|
|Zane||"No matter gay, straight or bi, lesbian, transgender life, I'm on the right track, baby, I was born this way" - Lady Gaga - Born This Way||Aug 01, 2017||R 154.23|
|Alex F||With warm feelings and full support from France||Aug 01, 2017||R 1 028.20|